China is a unique country in itself, but so are its people and their dating culture. If you happen to live in the country, which may explain why your dating choices revolve around Chinese women, you need to at least learn her perspective on dating based on her culture. It’s the same thing when you sign up on Chinese dating sites. Whether you are dating online or in person, there are some things that are better or not said and done.
Here are some of the big don’ts in Chinese dating culture when dating in China or online:
Less than 1% of China’s population speaks English, which means fewer than 10 million Chinese. Even just a few simple words can help you break the language barrier, which is also a guaranteed way to leave a good impression on your Chinese date. Even if you meet a Chinese woman who can speak English, speaking some Mandarin will show that you respect her language and origin.
It’s better if you don’t know what to expect when dating a Chinese woman because that might lead you to believing some of the stereotypes. Not all Chinese women are slender, good in the kitchen, or very conservative. When dating Chinese women, it’s best that you don’t generalize nor lump them all in the same boat. Never assume that they’re all the same.
As much as you want to settle down already, you shouldn’t hurry your Chinese date. Growing up in western cultures, you may not be aware that Chinese people don’t mind having a lengthy date process. This is to ascertain whether their date is someone who they can really commit to. For Chinese women, dating is a very serious commitment.
But if she lets you know that she’s eager to get married, don’t delay! Chinese girls, if they’re at the marriageable age, will want to get married as soon as possible. With Chinese people’s downright honesty, she will most likely tell you this. So when she says she’s ready for it, don’t drag it out any longer.
Obviously, it’s not a good thing to compare her to other Asian women, especially to Korean or Japanese girls. Don’t even open your mouth to talk about the difference if you want more than a first, second, or third date.
But seriously, don’t you ever mention Japan. It’s like a taboo word in China since these two countries have long since been rivals.
Even the most modern Chinese girls still stick to the old traditions. They would determine whether a man is able to provide for them and their future family. One way they gauge this is if the man picks up the bills especially on the first few dates.
It doesn’t mean that these ladies are after your wealth. But being the practical people they are, Chinese women will likely choose men who can offer them not just love but also a future comfortable lifestyle.
Remind yourself that she has been brought up in a nation where communism has been the norm for many years. She might not take your gist about democracy and may even find your democratic view as strange. If she does start this type of conversation, be on the safe side by allowing her to lead the conversation and not be pulled into a debate.
Wearing one’s shoes inside another person’s home is considered rude. Chinese people are very particular about hygiene. This, in fact, is a tiny, secret recipe to losing her family’s favor, and even losing the chance to prove that you’re worthy of their daughter.
Early on, keep your hands to yourself. Chinese couples do not openly display affection toward each other publicly. If you insist, she might be embarrassed or offended, which is such a deal breaker in the early part of your relationship. Even the simplest affections, like holding her hand or giving a little peck on the cheek, may not be even welcomed.
To be safe, wait for her to initiate physical contact with you.
In China, women tend to look younger than their age, so it’s a common thing to see a Chinese woman in her 30s still looking like in her 20s. Don’t make her feel old for her age, but compliment on her beauty and sense of fashion instead.
Now, here are some of the things you can do to date Chinese women by taking cues from Chinese men that have already married:
Remember all these when dating Chinese women, especially if you want more than just the first few dates.