The Importance of Asking the Right Questions

When we're dating, most of us are hungry for a great conversation. But to attain that, one must ask the right questions with genuine curiosity. If you do, it'll make a huge difference in the way you relate with Chinese women.

Also, if you're thinking of starting a long-term relationship, asking questions is beneficial in determining who your real match is. We know that first dates can be daunting. Sometimes we're caught between the basic questions and coming off too intense. But this is also your first opportunity to get to know as much as you can about the Chinese lady you're dating, which will also help you both determine if you still want to have a second date.

Asking the right questions during your first date is indeed easier said than done. If you dig too much into deep topics that early, she may start to feel like she's in an interview. If you ask basic questions too, she may think you’re not interested. So what is it really?

Discover the perfect questions you can ask to single Chinese women during your first date. Read on to learn more.

Appropriate Questions to Ask Single Chinese Women

Looking for a long-term relationship? Ask these simple questions to figure out whether your date has the qualities of a wife.

• How do you spend your day off? - Timing is everything. When you guys arrive at a restaurant or wherever, don't ask this question right away. Build momentum first, like complimenting her or asking her how her day went. If you think you have built that momentum, you may start asking.
  
  This is a great question to ask for a lot of reasons. First, you'll know if she has a job without literally asking if she has one. Also, you'll know what are her hobbies and whether you both have a common interest.
  
  Lastly, how she spends her free time can tell you a lot about her.


• Where do you see yourself 5 years from now? - You want a long term, right? Then don't be afraid to ask her this question. It's important for you to know if she has the same vision as you. If you don't, that means you're not compatible, and you can proceed to date another Chinese lady. There are thousands of women in the Republic of China seeking marriage with foreign men. So, no pressure.


• What are your top priorities right now? - This is another question that will reveal a lot of things about her, whether she has kids or is still studying. This will give you an idea of whether she's interested in having a long-term relationship or not.
  
  If her answer is family, then that's a good sign. That means relationships are her priority and that she's family-oriented.


• How do you feel about [insert a deal-breaker]? - You may know this already, that it's a bad idea to talk about topics like politics and religion on a first date. But if it's that important to you that you consider it a deal-breaker if your date doesn't share the same stance as you, then feel free to bring it up.
  
  This question is a subtle way of voicing out your opinion rather than putting your date on the spot and asking her if she agrees. Also, you're certain that you'll get an honest answer because your date won't know which side you're on.
  
  Just be mindful that even if she has a different view than yours, you can still make the relationship work, so try your best to keep an open mind. It's easy to make judgments at first, but you might miss the best match for you if you let her go.


• What are you looking for? - This question may sound a little scary, but this will help you determine if your date is down for something real. Whether she's looking for someone to settle down with or just casually dating, it's important for you to know this beforehand for you to see if she's worth your time and effort. This way, the chances of getting your heart broken is low.

These aren't the only questions you can ask, you can ask as many as you wish. Just make sure that it's light, at the same time, revealing. These are just questions that will uncover some of the most important information about your date amongst Chinese women.

Now, let’s check what are the questions you should avoid asking.

Questions to Avoid Asking

In the dating world, there are 2 kinds of first dates. First, the ones where you lose track of time, and the other is where you feel like it's dragging. For the latter part, that may be because you asked something that sounds a little bit rude or off --- the worst part is you're not aware of it.

Here are some of those questions you should avoid asking single Chinese women:

• You seem beautiful, so why are you still single? - This question sounds like there's something wrong with her that's why she's still single.
  As you may have noticed, a lot of famous Chinese women in Hollywood get wed with a man from their country too. This is due to the fact that arranged marriages are still practiced in China up until this day. And since these ladies go out of their way from that, that only means they'd want to find a better option outside their home country. That's the main reason why. So, don't rub it in. Just focus on winning her heart for now.


• Have you ever eaten cats/dogs/etc.? - Just because she's Asian doesn't mean she eats this. Yes, there may be Asian countries that do, but you need to respect that as food culture is different all over the world. So, if you think of asking this, don't, because it's rude.


• Would like to spend the night with me? - This question is a deal-breaker for women in China. Also, you should know that the ladies who signed up on our site are all looking for a lifetime partner and not a one night stand.

There you go, that sums it all up! Be sure to follow these tips for you to get the chance of dating her again.

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